Orange Bitch

carolstherese:

petitetimidgay:

“just be happy!”

“I love when people tell people who are struggling or disadvantaged or just in any marginalised community that their life will be so much better if they just be happy and have such a positive perspective and it’s like, if you think about that for more than .02 seconds, you realize that’s total bullshit. If you’re coercing someone into being positive, what you’re effectively saying is, ‘Your experiences make me uncomfortable so I need you to sanitize them in a way that doesn’t force me to question my world view and absolves me of any responsibility of critical thinking.’ No, that’s not how this is gonna work because I need you to stop requiring that I blow sunshine out of my ass 24/7 to get you to hear my experiences and care about my problems. My other favourite is, ‘Oh, how can you be depressed or have anxiety!? You’re so pretty!’ Like, thanks, it means a lot to me that you think I’m hot, but that doesn’t change the fact that my mental health is the equivalent of a swirling cauldron of angry spiders. Both positive and negative emotions are fleeting. Negative emotions are not bad. Just because experiences are negative or situations make us uncomfortable, does not mean that they don’t deserve to be validated. Just because someone presents their perspective in a way that’s not dreadfully appealing to you, does not mean that their experiences don’t deserve to be heard and given a platform. If I wanna be pissed, or be sulky, I will be. So you can take your forced positivity and go shove a cactus up your ass.”